Showing posts with label Chronic Pain Syndromes. Show all posts
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Saturday, December 6, 2014

Book Review: You And Everything After by Ginger Scott


You and Everything After is the second novel in The Falling Series and the sixth novel overall by author Ginger Scott. Ms. Scott hit it out of the park when she released her first novel,Waiting On The Sidelines and she has continued to do with every single novel she has released since then including You and Everything After. Both novels can be read as stand alone novels but I highly recommend that you read both novels in this three part series.

This is the gorgeous story of Tyson "Ty" Preeter, a graduate student and older brother of Nate Preeter, who we met in book one of The Falling Series, This Is Falling and Cassidy "Cass" Owens, roommate of Rowe Stanton, who we also met in This Is Falling. Ty is tough, strong-willed and refuses to allow his disability (paralyzed from the waist down and in a wheelchair) to get in his way. He'll also be the first to tell you that he can be a real a$ at times. Cass has come to college despite her disability, Multiple Sclerosis (MS) and despite her parents' overprotection. Cass has come to college to start over. No more of that reputation about how easy it is to get her into bed. Nope. No more.

Even though we met Ty and Cass in This Is Falling, they were the secondary characters in the background while we read about Nate and Rowe's story. In this novel, we get all of the things that happened during the time Nate and Rowe are finding each other, but this is now focused solely on Ty and Cass. Ms. Scott has now moved Ty and Cass into the forefront, placed Nate and Rowe into the background as secondary characters, and shows us their story from both of their points of view.

Like every Ginger Scott novel, I couldn't put it down. I really did consider whether or not I could use REAL toothpicks to keep my eyes opened as I fought sleep to keep on reading. My body was falling asleep but my brain was in high gear, on full speed, and it would not rest until I finished this magnificent story.

Ty is the kind of man that women dream about finding: handsome, educated, athletic, great sense of humor, and empathy for others who suffer from disabilities like he does. And while Ty loves a party, the PITY party is the one party Ty is NEVER interested in. Ms. Scott gives us a completely realistic look at what it's like to have a disability like Ty's and how he still manages to accomplish so much. And when he meets Cass, his desire to be all of those things and be an even better man than he already is, becomes shockingly important to him.

Cass is the kind of young woman who doesn't like to be told that she shouldn't do something because she has MS. I can relate. I have a similar disability and it's painful all day long. I hate being told I can't do something because of my disability. But when Cass meets Ty and he turns out to be her personal trainer, he's positive that she could play soccer in college as she was a championship player in high school who was forced to quit by her parents and their understandable, but overprotective, worries.

Put these two together and you have FIREWORKS! They are hot, hot, hot! Yes, there are great love scenes in this entire book and you will love every single one of them. But, their clashing of souls and passion are what gives these two young lovers, regardless of their physical limitations, the ability to leap over the highest of mountains. Together, these two can do anything.

One particular scene, the one I loved MOST, is a scene when Ty and Cass are together in Cass' bed. When Ty is on top, he has to use his arm strength to hold himself up. Ty wants to be able to hold Cass a certain way but he can't because he needs both arms. He simply can't do both. It's Cass who comes up with a way to make that happen and Ty holds her. Tight. And he plays it over and over in his mind how much he loves her for everything that she is because she gets him. Like it says in the book's synopsis, "She’s about to own me…completely. And I’m about to let her." And he lets her. Yeah, sure...as if he had a choice.

Both characters are physically "broken" but together? They complement each other so well, each one repairs the other. Both characters have fragile hearts and neither wants it broken again. But together? Fragility gone, replaced with strength from each other. Both characters are young, one starting college, one starting graduate school. But they both have the maturity of two 40 year olds who've been around the block, over the mountain, through the woods, and back around the block again. I would call these two "old souls." Ty and Cass are together because the Universe knew that they needed each other. Like me and my man, Ty and Cass saved each other. Neither actually wanted to ever admit that they needed rescuing but they did. And it wouldn't have worked if either was with someone else. It had to be them for the saving and rescuing to work.

It's extremely difficult to pick a favorite from Ginger Scott's novels. They all have the ability to grab you, wrap you in warmth, make you root for the characters, and make you feel what the characters are feeling. To accomplish one of those things with a novel is exceptionally difficult to do. Ms. Scott pulls off all of those things in every novel she writes. And this one was no different. Because of these two old souls and the obstacles they have to jump over, I think this is my favorite Ginger Scott novel. Probably because I wanted to jump into this book and be one of the characters. Kind of because I could hear Ty's Louisiana accent in my head.

Beautiful. Delightfully funny! Irreverently funny! Classy. B!tchin! Crazy cool. Wild! Ginger Scott not only writes amazing novels, she tops herself with each new novel. How she tops THIS one? I have no idea what she'll do but I know she's going to do it. I've said the same thing since I first stumbled upon and requested the ARC for Waiting On The Sidelines and I'll say it again…if Ginger Scott writes it, I'm reading it and that applies for as long as…forever.


*ARC provided by the author in exchange for an honest review*

Thursday, August 7, 2014

The Fibromyalgia Suffers' Creed

Feel free to substitute your ailment or the ailment of a loved one and please feel free to copy, paste and share.

1). I accept the fact that I have Fibromyalgia, a condition and disease that will limit my abilities in my everyday life.

2). While I will always have Fibromyalgia, some days will be good and some days will be bad. I will be thankful for the good days and TRY to make the most of them.

3). When I am having a bad day, I will TRY to remember that most likely it will not last.

4). When I am having a bad day, I will listen to my body, and get the rest that I need. I will let my family know that I am not feeling well, because they cannot read my mind.

5). I will NOT feel guilty about resting, because I will eventually begin to feel better, and in the long run, it will also benefit my family. They will not become malnourished if they eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for dinner.

6). I will NOT feel guilty or worry about the work that is not getting done while I am resting. The world will not fall apart without me, even though it looks like it already has.



7). I will NOT let anyone else make me feel guilty for taking time out for myself. They will never understand exactly what I am experiencing, the pain that I feel, and the exhaustion that I feel.

8). They will never understand the fear that I feel when my symptoms creep up on me, and land me flat on my back.

9). I promise not to feel sorry for myself when I am feeling bad, because there are a lot of people out there who are in worse shape than I am. I will not be sorry for what I don't have, but be thankful for what I do have.

10). I promise to learn a lesson from my illness, which is not to take life for granted. I will enjoy every moment that was given to me, and be thankful for the times that I can smile and laugh.

11). I will TRY to help others who also suffer from my condition. There are many confused and frightened people who need to hear comforting words from someone who has been there. There are many people who need me to take his or her hand and be pointed in the right direction.

12). Lastly, I will TRY not to ask, "Why me?" While Fibromyalgia has weakened my physical body, it has strengthened my heart, my soul, and my spirit.

Tuesday, December 31, 2013

A Letter From Fibromyalgia

A LETTER FROM FIBROMYALGIA

Dear Miserable Human Being,

Hi, my name is Fibromyalgia, and I’m an invisible chronic illness. I am now ‘velcroed’ to you for life. Others around you can’t see me or hear me, but YOUR body feels me. I can attack you anywhere and anyway I please. I can cause severe pain, or, if I am in a good mood, I can just cause you to ache all over.

Remember when you and Energy ran around together and had fun? I took Energy from you and gave you Exhaustion. Just try to have fun now! I also took Good Sleep from you and in its place gave you Fibro Fog (a.k.a.) Brain Fog. I can make you tremble internally or make you feel cold or hot when everyone else feels normal. Oh yeah, I can make you feel anxious or depressed, too. If you have something planned, or are looking forward to a great day, I can take that away too. You didn’t ask for me. I chose you for various reasons: that virus you had that you never quite recovered from, or that car accident, or childbirth, the death of a loved one, or maybe it was those years of abuse and trauma.

Well, anyway, I’m here to stay! I hear you’re going to see a doctor who can get rid of me. I’m ROTFLMAO! Just try! You will have to go to many, many doctors until you find one who can help you effectively. In fact, you’ll see many doctors who tell you ‘it’s all in your head’ (or some version of that). If you do find a doctor willing to treat this ‘non-disease’, you will be put on pain pills, sleeping pills, and energy pills.

You will be told you are suffering from anxiety or depression, given a TENS unit, told if you just sleep and exercise properly, I will go away. You’ll be told to think positively, you'll be poked, prodded, and most of all, you will not be taken seriously when you cry to the doctor how debilitating life is for you every single day!

Your family, friends, and coworkers will all listen to you until they just get tired of hearing about how I make you feel, and that I’m a debilitating disease. Some of them will say things like “Oh, you’re just having a bad day”, or “Well, remember, you can’t expect to do the things you used to do 20 years ago,” not hearing that you said “20 DAYS ago”! Some will just start talking behind your back, while you slowly feel that you are losing your dignity, trying to make them understand, especially when you are in the middle of a conversation with a ‘normal’ person, and can’t remember what you were going to say next!

In closing, you’ve probably figured out that the ONLY place you will get any real support and understanding in dealing with me is with other people with Fibromyalgia! They are the only ones that will understand your complaints of unrelenting pain, insomnia, fibro fog, the inability to perform the everyday tasks that ‘normal people’ take for granted.

Remember, I’m stuck to you like Velcro – and I expect we’ll be together for the rest of your life. Lucky you!


Author Unknown